Making significant gifts to loved ones is arguably one of the most fraught wealth management decisions. Emotionally, we need to balance the joy of giving during our lifetimes with a potential loss of control and the prospect of unintended consequences. Practically, we need to weigh how much we can afford to give with the realization that every dollar not transferred could be subject to a 40 percent federal estate tax (or more, if rates return to previous levels), as well as potential state estate taxes.

Can I Give? Will I Have Enough?

The last thing anyone wants is to have to borrow from their kids or grandkids later in life because they gave too much. Whether a family has $10 million or $100 million, a long-term cash-flow analysis—also called a lifestyle analysis—is a necessity. No one wants to be forced into significant drawdowns at the wrong time, which means that inflation and market volatility must be considered.

In addition, studies show that wealthier people tend to live longer than average, which could bring unexpected and uninsurable medical expenses down the road. (Glei DA, Lee C, Weinstein M, “Assessment of Mortality Disparities by Wealth Relative to Other Measures of Socioeconomic Status Among US Adults,” JAMA Network Open, April 8, 2022; Finegood ED, Briley DA, Turiano NA, et al., “Association of Wealth with Longevity in US Adults at Midlife,” JAMA Health Forum, July 23, 2021).

Sometimes, even those with more wealth than they could spend in multiple lifetimes might be afraid to give. In that case, addressing any anxiety from a psychological and emotional perspective, as well as from a practical one, is key.

How Much Should I Give?

Some people want to know how much is enough. Other people want to learn how much is too much. Warren Buffett once said in a 1986 Fortune magazine article that the perfect amount to give children is “enough money so that they would feel they could do anything, but not so much that they could do nothing.” In other words, there is no magic number.

Instead, the answer is to give loved ones no more than they are prepared for. An unprepared individual could receive a few hundred thousand dollars, and it could ruin their life—they might drop out of school, abuse drugs and alcohol, or develop a gambling addiction. On the other hand, a prepared person could be gifted millions of dollars and still turn out well—continue to study hard, build a career, raise a family and become a pillar of the community.

The key is to focus on preparing the family for the money. A team of good accountants, attorneys and wealth managers can help implement a successful long-term plan to invest
the family’s assets and transfer the funds over multiple generations in a tax-efficient manner. The team also should work on preparing future generations for that financial wealth. This could involve financial education, communication and values exercises, and a focus on healthy family governance. 

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When Should I Give?

From a gift, estate and generation-skipping transfer (GST) tax perspective, giving sooner rather than later could provide substantial tax benefits. Not only can a married couple transfer up to $27.22 million completely free of taxes in 2024, but all the future growth of those assets could be free of any future gift, estate and GST taxes. Moreover, the $27.22 million lifetime exemption amount per couple is set to be cut roughly in half after 2025, so families only have a relatively limited time to take advantage of the substantial potential tax savings from the larger use-it-or-lose-it exemption amount.

On the emotional front, not only do we want to see loved ones enjoy gifts while we are still alive, but studies have shown that giving to others can boost the giver’s happiness and satisfaction, increase life expectancy, reduce stress and ease depression. (Dunn EW, Aknin LB, Norton MI, “Spending Money on Others Promotes Happiness,” Science, Vol. 319, Issue 5870, March 21, 2008; Harbaugh W, Mayr U, Burghart D, “Neural Responses to Taxation and Voluntary Giving Reveal Motives for Charitable Donations,” Science, Vol. 316, Issue 5831, June 15, 2007). Moreover, avoiding the topic of wealth transfer—to family members and to charity—could create more problems down the road. Even if family members get along, they might all end up fighting with each other over assets if they are not prepared for the wealth. 

Before making any gift, it’s important to prepare family members for that gift from a financial, psychological and emotional perspective. There is not one perfect age at which to directly give money to a child or grandchild. Some young adults are perfectly equipped to manage millions of dollars in their 20s, while older adults might blow it all within a few years. 

The appropriate time to give is only when they are ready. By starting with gifts of smaller amounts at younger ages, the next generation can learn to manage the wealth in an effective and healthy manner, develop greater responsibility and become good stewards of the wealth in the future.

How Should I Give?

An individual can give up to $18,000 to as many people as they want per year—the annual exclusion amount as of 2024—without any need to report the gift for tax purposes on a Form 709, United States Gift (and Generation-Skipping Transfer) Tax Return. In addition, individuals can pay anyone’s tuition or health care expenses directly without it counting toward their annual exclusion amount or lifetime exemption amount.

Making gifts to loved ones does not necessarily mean handing them cash or writing them a check. Instead of giving assets directly outright, gifts can be set up during lifetime for tax purposes by using trusts. In addition to tax benefits, those trusts can also be used to preserve assets as a safety net for the beneficiary’s lifetime—in other words, moderate how much is available to beneficiaries based on personal circumstances, such as supplemental income for education or consumption. Furthermore, trusts—along with the guidance and protection of a corporate trustee—also could provide beneficiaries with additional asset protection from potential creditors or even possible divorce in the future.

Setting aside gifts in trust now does not mean telling beneficiaries about the gift or handing them copies of account statements or balance sheets. While most states require that trust beneficiaries receive certain notices about a trust and the trust’s assets, there are some states—such as Delaware—that have special “silent trust” rules, which allow the grantor to keep information private. 

To Whom Should I Give?

Balancing equal with equitable can be a major planning challenge while trying to preserve family harmony. Differences in means and needs requires each family to determine what fair means to them. For example, family members with special needs may require additional financial assistance. At the same time, individuals who are financially successful now might need more support down the road due to a potential health condition or financial hardship in the future.

For many families, charity is often part of the overall wealth plan. From an income, gift, estate and GST tax perspective, it is important to work with good advisers to structure charitable gifts in the most tax efficient manner. While a common approach is to set aside a portion of income for charity, a more recent approach among some families is to treat charity like a child when determining overall giving. For instance, a family with three children could set aside 25 percent for charity and the remaining 75 percent for the children. A family philanthropy program also could be created so that generations can work together to support the family’s legacy.

Where Do I Go from Here?

Providing wealth to loved ones should truly be a gift, not simply a mechanical transfer of assets. If done correctly after preparing those loved ones for the wealth, it could provide a better quality of life, save on taxes and prevent the negative impacts on those who are unprepared for the wealth. A collaborative team of advisers can help families prepare future generations as part of an ongoing process.

As Nathan Mayer Rothschild, son of the founder of the Rothschild banking dynasty, once said, “It requires a great deal of boldness and a great deal of caution to make a great fortune; and when you have got it, it requires ten times as much wit to keep it.”

Justin Miller, J.D., CFP®, is a partner and national director of wealth planning with Evercore Wealth Management, an adjunct professor at Golden Gate University, a Fellow of the American College of Trust and Estate Counsel and a member of the CalCPA Estate Planning Committee. You can reach him at justin.miller@evercore.com.